“Our Mothers … no one angers us more. No one inspires us more. No one saddens us more. No one brings us more joy. No one loves us more. Our Mothers are our Infinite Everything; without them, there is no life … no meaning.”
—Richard Bliss Brooke
I have been fortunate to have three mothers.
Aileen Brooke gave me life and then proceeded to torture and inspire me for the next 65 years. She was an extraordinary one-of-a-kind. You can read about her here:https://richardbrooke.com/blogs/personal-development/lessons-from-my-mother
My father remarried when I was in my teens and had the great fortune to find his true-life soul mate. And I found the nurturing mother mine was often not. Penny Brooke, my “stepmom,” embraced me like her own, loved me, tolerated me, entertained me, but most importantly, gave my father a life of love and meaning.
“Stepmom” feels like a horribly unsatisfying label to describe Penny’s role in my life. She allowed me to see what love and companionship looked like. And fortunately, she is still an immensely important part of my life.
“A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.”
—Cardinal Mermillod
And then there is the “finally” love of my life, Kimmy. Although we have only been together for eight short years, Kimmy has shown me the infinite distinctions of true motherhood.
I have always marveled at the idea of the physical process of giving birth … the idea of which petrifies me. I literally cannot fathom it. Not the 9 months leading to it, not the 19 hours of IT, and not the 19 months of nursing and crying afterward. It is a price paid for giving life that is the ultimate gesture of love, generosity and selflessness.
“Motherhood is the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary – it’s an act of infinite optimism.”
—Gilda Radner
I came into Kimmy and Hailey’s life when Hailey was 15. They had been inseparable since Kimmy’s divorce from Hailey’s father five years earlier. I have been gifted being able to witness, virtually every day for the last eight years, what LOVE really looks like, what it feels like. Love when it is angry. Love when it is disappointed. Love when it is not heard. Love when it is scared. Love when it is inspired. Love when it is hopeful. Love when it is unconditional.
“Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.”
—Marion C. Garretty
I have been immersed in love, being pulled to the extreme at all angles … stretched to unimagined lengths but never at risk of breaking. It is a miracle in constant motion. Sometimes I try to imagine the heartache Kimmy feels. I cannot. Sometimes I try to imagine the pride and joy she feels. I cannot. Not at her level. It is biological. It is chemical. The two are one, like twins feeling each other’s pain and joy.
Kimmy has given me many things for which I may be inspired. Her joy, humor, resilience, courage, leadership and creativity are world class. But her motherhood is out of this world … my world, magical.
Hailey, you are one “lucky egg” miracle. And your children will live extraordinary lives because of the model you have lived in your mother Kimmy.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom, Penny and Kimmy. Thank you for the LIFE.
P.S. My blogs are, for me, a conversation. I rant for a bit and then … if so inspired, you respond. Your comments close the loop of conversation. They let me know I was heard. They let me know I contributed something … or not. I encourage you to close the loop … or open a new one and say something.
63 comments
Carolyn DeMarco
Elegantly written, heartfelt tribute to mothers that I sent to many of my favourite mothers. What I liked is that it honestly expressed the different ways an individual can experience the mother role, and the unique and irreplaceable role of our birth mother. Greatly appreciated. Thank you Richard.
Elegantly written, heartfelt tribute to mothers that I sent to many of my favourite mothers. What I liked is that it honestly expressed the different ways an individual can experience the mother role, and the unique and irreplaceable role of our birth mother. Greatly appreciated. Thank you Richard.
Louise Harvey
Thanks for this deep honest sharing. I could relate to all of this. A harder job than being a mother is the step – mother job. So I celebrate that your experience was one of value. And wonderful that you could share all that with us. Feeling Grateful.
Thanks for this deep honest sharing. I could relate to all of this. A harder job than being a mother is the step – mother job. So I celebrate that your experience was one of value. And wonderful that you could share all that with us. Feeling Grateful.
Steve Szabo
A beautifully written, thoughtful and inspiring blog! Thank you Richard for sharing this with all of us who read it!
A beautifully written, thoughtful and inspiring blog! Thank you Richard for sharing this with all of us who read it!
JANA JORGENSON
Richard… I absolutely LOVE the rawness & authenticity of this piece of writing & reflection. Of course, from you I would expect no less but to admire & embrace Kimmy’s beautiful role as a Mother brought me to tears. This was a beautiful account of your life. Happy Mother’s Day to your Moms and Kimmy! You are #trulyblessed
Richard… I absolutely LOVE the rawness & authenticity of this piece of writing & reflection. Of course, from you I would expect no less but to admire & embrace Kimmy’s beautiful role as a Mother brought me to tears. This was a beautiful account of your life. Happy Mother’s Day to your Moms and Kimmy! You are #trulyblessed
Linda S Moore
Richard — Glad I scrolled down after reading about your Mom. Incredible story of love. From beginning to (not yet the) end. How fortunate you are!!
Linda
Richard — Glad I scrolled down after reading about your Mom. Incredible story of love. From beginning to (not yet the) end. How fortunate you are!!
Linda
Ricardo Wilkins
Beautifully said Richard. As someone with a strong devotion to my mother your words resonate deeply.
Beautifully said Richard. As someone with a strong devotion to my mother your words resonate deeply.
Lisa jadis
This is beautiful Richard! I felt your words as a Mother who adores her 2 children and a Daughter like Hailey who experienced love from an extraordinary woman. What a gift!
This is beautiful Richard! I felt your words as a Mother who adores her 2 children and a Daughter like Hailey who experienced love from an extraordinary woman. What a gift!
Lynnette Smith
Nice to have stumbled upon such a well written piece by you Richard on Mother’s Day! Thank you. 🙏🌺
Nice to have stumbled upon such a well written piece by you Richard on Mother’s Day! Thank you. 🙏🌺
Gordon Hall
Richard, you always do more than contribute something. You inspire. Your words are always motivational.
Richard, you always do more than contribute something. You inspire. Your words are always motivational.
Bernadette Glasgow Bryant
Richard,
That was absolutely one of the most beautiful tributes to mothers. It was true, from the heart and filled with awesomeness. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, sentiments and experiences of the lives of those who serve the beautiful role of a mother. As we all know, it truly is the most challenging and the most rewarding role of all. Some do it very, very well, and when they do, it is life nurturing. When they do it not do it well, it too can motivate us and do it better.
Have a blessed day with all your loves!
Bernadette
Bernadette Bryant
Richard,
That was absolutely one of the most beautiful tributes to mothers. It was true, from the heart and filled with awesomeness. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, sentiments and experiences of the lives of those who serve the beautiful role of a mother. As we all know, it truly is the most challenging and the most rewarding role of all. Some do it very, very well, and when they do, it is life nurturing. When they do it not do it well, it too can motivate us and do it better.
Have a blessed day with all your loves!
Bernadette
Bernadette Bryant
Dawn Aspaas
Thank you for being so open and giving a perspective from a son. Even when a mother isn’t perfect she can be valued enough to love and here you show it to be true. The gift of a step-mom can be a great blessing and the love of a wife and daughter with all its raw beauty! You have a wonderful gift of expression Richard and I enjoy your wisdom. May Gods always bless you with love and light in your life! Dawn
Thank you for being so open and giving a perspective from a son. Even when a mother isn’t perfect she can be valued enough to love and here you show it to be true. The gift of a step-mom can be a great blessing and the love of a wife and daughter with all its raw beauty! You have a wonderful gift of expression Richard and I enjoy your wisdom. May Gods always bless you with love and light in your life! Dawn
Cheryl Wills
A most inspiring reflection. Thank you, Richard.
A most inspiring reflection. Thank you, Richard.
Heather
This is beautiful, Richard! Thank you for sharing from the heart. I can relate to the love you describe between Kimmy and Hailey, from both the daughter’s perspective and the mother’s perspective. It’s such a blessing to have such a close relationship with my mom and my daughters.
This is beautiful, Richard! Thank you for sharing from the heart. I can relate to the love you describe between Kimmy and Hailey, from both the daughter’s perspective and the mother’s perspective. It’s such a blessing to have such a close relationship with my mom and my daughters.