The following are what can be called “cultural paradigms,” meaning they are the hidden rules of society.
Sometimes they are in our faces, placed there by our parents or other authority figures. Other times they are just the rules of the road … not so bold, but
By referring to them as “lies,” I am not suggesting that they are not valuable attributes or even often required for the achievement of specific goals. What I am suggesting is that these “rules” do not necessarily lead to success as society would have us believe.
Desire Creates Success
Most people confuse Motivation with desire. We think because we want something badly enough, we will have the energy to get it.Yet, how many people do you know who have a strong desire for a great deal more in their lives?And … how many of them have had that desire for a long time?How many are achieving it? The fact is, almost everyone desires health, wealth, and happiness, and almost no one achieves all three. How many people do you know who even have two?Desire has absolutely NOTHING to do with Motivation.
Desire only creates the yearning for something, but it has none of the actual magical energy it takes to stay on the path toward achieving it.
Hard Work Creates Success
Do you want to be successful? Then work hard. But haven’t you been working hard? How many people do you know who have been working hard their whole lives? If you worked twice as hard as you do now … if you worked twice as many hours every day … would you be successful? (Or would you be divorced or dead?) Does hard work necessarily have anything to do with success?I am not advocating not working hard. It just does not necessarily lead to you getting what you want. It is a great asset, but not the answer we have been led to believe it is.
Being a Good Person Creates Success
Be a good person. I am not advocating anything else. But what does being a good person have to do with what some people consider success? How many financially successful jerks do you know? Haven’t you seen the evidence that “money has no conscience”? Money doesn’t care where it goes. Neither does health, and in many domains of knowledge, neither does wisdom.
Getting a Good Education Will Lead to Your Success
Again, I am not advocating not getting the best education you can. The more actual education we can get in life, the better. Yet, the world is filled with educated derelicts. Education does not ensure anything. It confirms that we know how to study and pass tests. The age-old truth of getting great grades and getting into the best college is as good a strategy as working hard and being a good person. It will not necessarily lead you to the good life.
Over and Out,
P.S. Let me know in the comments what you think about these 4 “greatest lies” of success.
P.P.S. This is a just a small excerpt from my book Mach2 With Your Hair On Fire. Have you read it? If not, grab a copy!